So the kids are driving me nuts. I think it’s horribly unfair that days that start so well in so many ways end with such upset and screaming (mostly mine ;)).
I’m particularly ticked off about the fact that I, as their mother, have been making a supreme effort to be good.
Good (as defined by my 4-year-old):
No yelling at her or her brother unless there is a noisy appliance running and they can’t hear me; saying “please” and “thank-you” when either her or brother do something I ask of them; not making her or her brother cry for any reason (for the record, I don’t “make” them cry, but that is often the result in our exchanges.)
So I put on a smile and remain calm throughout temper tantrums despite sleepless nights and way-too-early mornings.
Up with sun, everyone is in a good mood. Breakfast is served. Everyone eats and laughs and enjoys each others’ company.
Get ready for school/daycare/work. No one fights in the bathroom. I diffuse a small argument over a toy, but everyone walks away happy.
I anticipate the 8:25 am hunger melt down. Dry Cheerios are offered to hungry kids while I take the bags out to the car. Everyone gets their snowsuits, boots and other winter paraphernalia on without a fuss (even the 2-year-old!)
Each child is dropped off at their appropriate location. Everyone is still smiling. This is a good day. 🙂
I head to work; have a fairly productive day. At quitting time, I head out to pick up the kids.
Five minutes after I strap both kids into the car, a switch is flipped and the screaming begins.
I’m guessing it’s close to snack time and I have two hungry kids on my hands. But the offer of snacks does not solve the problem. We make it home with only a mild mommy migraine. I remain calm for as long as I can. Sometime around dinner, I lose it.
Children who won’t eat a dinner that they have previously claimed was their favourite is my button.
It gets pushed repeatedly.
I remove the plates from the table, excuse the children from the table in a deadly calm voice and lock myself in the bathroom.
Where do I go from here? This is a steep hill and it’s very slippery. 😐