I question whether I treat my kids too often. I’m sure a lot of parents do.
In our house right now, we’re living by the Halloween Candy Rule that dictates that for the first one-week period following Halloween Night and the festivities of Trick or Treating, you can have a portion of your candy following every meal, including breakfast. (OK, so maybe I made that rule up, but still, it’s a rule in our house.)
But outside of that candy rule, there are other treats. Like a drink and a doughnut at the mall once all the shopping is done (providing you were a well-behaved child throughout the errand running).
And if you cleaned up all your toys every time Mommy or Daddy asked for a week, Mommy or Daddy (your choice) will play a game with you even if we’re too busy to take a break and play a game. (This is a great treat for my kids, and me too, because it means a break from work and my older kid realizes how special it is when Mom or Dad take a break from chores and focus on her for a while.)
But sometimes I wonder if I’m “treating” my kids too much instead of just expecting them to lend a hand and do their part as members of this family. I’ve been known to call everything a “special treat” if it means I can convince my kids to do something. (Like: If you put away all your toys, I’ll treat you to some candy, some time with Mom, a special book, etc.)
And with the recent Halloween festivities, I use my kids’ candy as
a bribe an incentive to motivate them. But the non-candy treats (time with mom or dad, a special book, a game, a movie, etc.) have lost their shine. All my kids want is candy.
I know it will pass. It’s just a phase. In the meantime, it’s sugar city at my house.