Destiny – Balance – Planning

Destiny. Balance. Planning. What do these three things have in common? They are all part of Mary Molloy’s process to help people design their destiny, balance their lives, and plan their futures.

Mary writes about her process in her book, Design Your Own Destiny. She has over 35 years of experience coaching people in achieving a proper work/life balance and simplifying the complexity of life’s choices.

I recently read Design Your Own Destiny in search of balance in my life. I’m a self-described work-a-holic. I take on too much. I have a hard time saying ‘no’. And I’m always out of balance.

This book may have arrived at just the right time. It’s a guide to creating a personalized life plan that takes into account all the important factors in your life.

The author provides many examples from situations where she has helped people put their lives in balance and create a plan for moving forward. I really like this. It’s one thing to read a book about getting your life in order and how to go about doing it. But I find it so much more relevant and helpful to read about someone else’s specific experience with the exercises that are being described in the book.

One technique the author covers in her book is the Ben Franklin T Chart. This is where you get specific with the issue you’re grappling with by filling in the chart and seeing clearly what the pros and cons are, what further information you need in order to make a decision, and what steps you need to take.

I found this very useful for breaking larger issues down into smaller chunks to be dealt with. Mary offers some great examples about how the T Chart has worked for others.

She also talks about drawing your dreams. This is where you visualize what it is you want and actually draw it. (Stick figures are OK. We all can’t be artists.) This can be really useful in helping you define exactly where you fit into your plan.

And last, but not least, my new favourite positivity exercise. I’ve been doing this every night and every most mornings since reading about it in Design Your Own Destiny. It’s the Drain/Gain exercise.

The gist of it is you imagine yourself being drained of all negativity. Then you imagine that you are soaking up positive energy. When you fall asleep, your subconscious mind will pull all the positive things you desire to you.

It’s all in the power of the mind.

The book has a lot of other great tips for getting what you want out of life. It was an easy read with lots of examples and stories of how life planning worked for other people. Design Your Own Destiny is available on

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Though I received a review copy of Design Your Own Destiny, the views and opinions stated above are my own. I was not compensated in any other way.


6 thoughts on “Destiny – Balance – Planning

  1. 4awritermom

    I’m definitely in need of some life balancing. There are so many books of this nature on the market and it’s hard to decipher which are worth purchasing. Thanks for the recommendation.

  2. Pingback: Life Takes Over: Destiny, Balance, Planning | Mary A Molloy

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