I went too far. My little guy was trying to put honey on his toast, a task he has been bugging to do on his own for a week now. But one that I have been intercepting and doing myself—mainly because the honey jar was too full and heavy for him to manage without a sticky disaster.
So, this morning, with the jar only half full, I allowed it. He managed to tip the jar and get the honey flowing, but he held the jar too close to his toast and got honey all over the mouth of the jar and the lid.
He did successfully get honey only on his toast and nowhere else. (YAY Little Brother!)
But when he tipped the jar back upright, honey trailed across the table, all over his hand, and down the side of the jar.
But at 7:00 a.m. this morning, with two kids still needing to eat breakfast, get ready for school, and get out the door by 7:30 a.m., the honey mess was one sticky situation that I had not worked into my morning plan to get us out the door on time.
So, I kinda lost it.
Here’s what transpired:
I took the honey jar from him (perhaps “snatched” is a better word) and I told him he was making a mess and he couldn’t have honey anymore because it was too much work to clean up the disaster he had made.
He crossed his arms on the table and put his little head down on his arms.
He looked crushed, sad, defeated, hurt, and shamed.
I did that to him.
Not a proud moment looking back on it. And, even in the moment, I knew it was not my best mommy moment.
We all make mistakes. We are all under pressure to get things done and done on time. I do my best to build extra time into our mornings so that we don’t have to rush and so that episodes like this one don’t have to happen. But sometimes we slip. I slipped. I hit snooze one time too many and created an environment of rush rush rush. And all it got me was this aching guilt that I hurt my son’s feelings. (OK, I got 10 extra minutes of sleep, too, but so what? His feelings are more important.)
So, what do I do now?
When I see him tonight, I will apologize to him and explain, in simple terms, that Mommy shouldn’t have said what she said about no more honey for him. And I will tell him that Mommy thinks that he did a good job getting the honey on his toast, and that if he keeps practising, he’ll be able to do it perfectly in no time. Then I will hug him and play with him for a bit before I start to make dinner and set in motion the evening routine.
Have you ever done or said something to your child that you regretted and wished you could take back?
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